I read you!

I was in Tokyo yesterday and got to do some sight seeing. What I didn't expect to see was not one but two men en femme. One was Asian and the other American or British or some such. The funny thing was that the European one saw that I read her/him and probably panicked a little. I wonder what she/he thought I was thinking?

I must say I was surprised. I've been cross dressing for ages now but never seen an actual cross dresser besides myself in actual life. Questions exploded into my head:
How do you go to the toilet? Surely you're invading real woman's privacy?
Do you think no one can tell? Does the silence of those around you equal acceptance?

I really want to reiterate that I'm not here to judge. What works for someone is up to them, I'm looking for what works for me. The experience reminded me why I don't want to be an "out" cross dresser and why I want to outgrow my dressing urges. I want my wife to be proud that I'm on her arm and not a black mark she has to hide.

Read/reading: when you recognize someone isn't of the gender they're intending to portray.
Out: if your family and friends know you're a cross dresser.

Tough Choices

You and I both need to make a choice. Lipstick or the tie? Sissify or Man Up? It's not my place to tell someone who likes cross dressing that they should put away the frock, rather, this blog is aimed at people who, like me, want to beat cross dressing in their own lives. There may be plenty of people out there who say it can't be done, but I'll wager there have been many success stories that, because of the stigma associated to cross dressing, have never been told. So, tell me, what's your choice? What successes have you had?

Frocks Forgotten

It's funny how changing your focus can change your attitude. I've been working hard to achieve personal goals and the result has been that I've hardly thought of crossdressing much in the past few weeks.

I've been looking forward to buying these shoes, but today I found myself clearing my shopping cart and choosing some fun guy things instead. I feel a whole lot happier too, but time will tell. I'll keep you posted.

Silvia
PS: The kiss is just a funny little thing to say "hey, this is a crossdressers blog." I don't mean anything other than playfulness by it.

Running To The Closet

It can be quite frustrating holding your urges in check. For instance, I've really wanted to spend some time crossdressing this weekend. I managed to avoid acting on the temptation but ended up feeling rather frustrated because of it. I guess the question is, how do you avoid the frustration, how do you turn it into something positive if you don't want to dress up. I think there may be some correlation with other stresses, such as if you're having a tough time at work or home, that would make us want to hide and retreat from reality. If that is the case, then surely the solution is to man up and solve those issues, rather than running from them.

Best Books for Crossdressing

I can't praise Helen Boyd's book, My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser, nearly enough. The book gave me the chance to see a whole new perspective on crossdressing and to understand how my wife feels about my unge to dress up. For my wife, who is reading the book too, it provided the words she needed to express her feelings, her pain and her concerns.

Helen also wrote a follow-up book, which I haven't read yet: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband. I was looking for more on Helen Boyd and found these YouTube videos that mention both books.





Have a look and then check out the books, especially My Husband Betty, it could save you a load of trouble.

Silvia

Actions Speak

Actions speak louder than words. We're too quick to complain while our poor actions as a community do little to endear us to the general public. I recently read this passage in My Husband Betty :

Heather explains:

I see most people that are into fringe movements and lifestyles as a bunch of whiners who would rather try to legislate society's acceptance of their actions than try to make themselves valuable people who happen to be crossdressers (or whatever other fringe they inhabit). To me, no one owes me acceptance, much less encouragement. If they are capable of giving me that, bonus! But, it's not and shouldn't be a given.

She's so right. If the Crossdressing community was know by the good they do, surely we would have a better reputation and a place in society. Why not fight for woman's rights, raise money to fight breast cancer or raise awareness about domestic violence. 


Silvia

What's Going On?

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If you're looking for something to do why not check out these two pairs of shoes, the 3" heel and the 5" heel and tell me what you think of each. I'd love to know. Also, let me know if you're a girl or a boy, or a boy dressed like a girl.

Silvia